Original tips written in 1999 (for parents talking with kids)
TIPS TO GUIDE YOU WHEN TALKING TO YOUR KIDS ABOUT HEALTHY SEXUALITY AND RELATIONSHIPS.
Listen with your ears.
Talking about sex includes listening, too. Sometimes we talk more than we listen.
Clarify their questions.
Do you really know what your child is asking? Repeat the questions back to them until you do.
Learn their info sources.
Ask them where they heard about specific topics or questions. Remind them that there are many myths about sex and even their best friend could be wrong.
Be an askable parent.
Be available, honest and attentive. Praise them for coming to you to talk about sexuality and relationships. This will teach your kids that they can always come to you for information and guidance.
Create teachable moments.
Use current events, movies, music and television as conversation starters — and do so often! Dinnertime talks and long drives are also great occasions to “break the ice.”
Practice, practice, practice.
It isn’t always easy to talk about healthy sexuality with our kids, and some topics are harder than others. Try holding practice sessions with a friend — or even a mirror — first.
It’s okay to say “I don’t know.”
Then look for the correct information with your child or teen. Or ask Sex Ed Mom by submitting your questions or attending a live chat (coming soon).
Teach your values openly.
In addition to giving your children the facts about sexual health and healthy relationships, tell them what you believe and why.
There are many amazing books available today. Review Sex Ed Mom’s Picks for Parents and check out the sexuality education section of your bookstore or library.
Get support from other parents.
Find other parents who understand the importance of raising sexually healthy and responsible youth either in person or online. Discuss your values about relationships and sexual health.